Just because a group has privileges, it doesn’t mean it doesn’t have bad experiences as victims of others’ privilege.

Just because a group is a victim of others’ privileges, it doesn’t mean that it doesn’t have privileges.

Just because a group is a victim of certain privileges and another group is a victim of different privileges, it doesn’t mean they can’t get along, or have right to assume anything about each other, or have right to call each other out rudely.

Just because two or more groups are victims of different privileges than each other and have different privileges than each other, it doesn’t mean that they have right to point out each other’s missteps without civility.

So, you know what? I will not damn my asexual privilege, or the other sets of privilege that I have. Why? Because everyone has privilege, everyone is victim to privilege. And though the world would be perfect if privilege did not exist, we won’t get there by simply “damning” them—we need to do more, we need to keep them in check, we need to calmly but energetically deal with it. It’s hard but necessary.

Let’s embrace each other, keep our privileges in check politely, so that we can live our lives and end the hate.

The world is a victim of hate. Let’s try to help it.